YOU WILL NEVER TAKE YOUR POWER BACK! GIVE UP TRYING!
“I have to take my power back!” She said.
I wanted her to stand in her power. I wanted her to create the awesome life she didn’t even know she had a right to dream up!
“You can’t take your power back! It’s impossible!” She glared at me.
“Does this mean I have to be controlled and manipulated by HIM (meaning her husband) or that Bitch who works across from me my whole life?!”
“No, of course not! It means that you have bought into a line of bullshit that taught you to not set boundaries, stand up for yourself, and (probably most importantly) to always FEAR BEING JUDGED!” I said.
“Oh shit! This has something to do with taking responsibility, doesn’t it?”
I went on to explain, in order to take something back, it means that you have to have the power to take it back. And if you gave your power away, that means you don’t have the power to take it back.
While that may seem “nit-picky”, the effects on our lives and our long-term growth are profound, so keep listening.
YOU CAN CREATE THE LIFE OF YOUR DREAMS! YOU HAVE THE POWER TO DO THAT!
And this piece about power, “owning” your power is a crucial piece.
If we don’t acknowledge how we allowed things to get bad or said “yes” to them on some level, then we will call it into our lives again in some way.
– Maybe you said YES, when you wanted to say NO.
– Maybe you let something slide and hoped it would get better or resolve itself.
– Maybe you downplayed something disturbing and said to yourself, “They didn’t really mean it.”
– Maybe you blamed yourself, just like THEY blamed you for whatever happened . . .
However it started, when it happens a couple of thousand times it starts to feel like a hole too deep to crawl out of!
It is better to say, “I have used my power and made decisions in ways that DO NOT serve and support me.” Embedded in that way of phrasing it is that YOU HAVE ALWAYS HAD THE POWER and the only issue is how you have used that power.
Usually the first response I hear is, “SO, IT IS MY FAULT!”
Of course not! No one is blaming you! There is no blame to be assessed.
I wasn’t talking about BLAME – I was talking about RESPONSIBILITY.
(If you notice yourself defending against being blamed, or blaming another, then YOU ARE NOT FOCUSING YOUR POWER TO CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT!)
Are you willing to take responsibility when you create something you like? If you are, then you acknowledge that you have the power to continue creating what you want.
Are you willing to take responsibility when you create something you don’t like? If you are, Then you acknowledge that you have the power to course correct and create what you want!
DISCUSSING WHO IS TO BLAME IS A WASTE OF TIME – GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE!
Have you used your power to serve and support you?
Have you used that power that you have to create something, a dynamic, a relationship, a life situation . . . that does not support your highest good?
Either way, go create it now!
This notion of “I gave my power away” or “I am taking my power back” is an attempt to be powerful and it is based in a victim mentality, and it is too bad that phrases like this are so prominent in our culture because they, while helping people get out of bad situations, subvert the true issue.
This victimhood stance of “taking my power back” can summon a good bit of energy to get us out of a bad situation, and that’s all good! I applaud anyone who does whatever they need to do to get out of a bad spot!
And I want you to not only get out of your bad situation, if you are in one – I want you to step into YOUR BRILLIANCE, YOUR RADIANCE. I want you to start behaving like the spiritual badass you were born to be!