I WON’T EVER GROW UP TO BE ANYTHING! MY LIFE IS GOING TO SUCK!
That was me when I was little. I only saw a very dismal future. I only looked down on myself so harshly.
- I never thought I would have awesome friends. All my friends were mean to me.
- I never thought I would gain the respect of people who are true masters in their field.
- I never thought I’d have any attention from super cool, intelligent, confident, big-hearted women that I respected – “they would never go for someone like me.”
- Once I got into high school, my sexual energy felt so toxic, I knew without a doubt that I was horrible and no one would ever enjoy making love with me.
Everything changed. Everything continues to change.
Over and over again, it’s the same process for me: Fail, fear, crumble, dig deep inside, heal, expand and grow bigger than my challenges, work hard, then succeed! (That’s the way I do it, yours is most probably different.)
What’s the biggest lesson that makes the difference? (It is the hardest one to teach my students and clients.)
It’s the ability to tell the difference between thoughts/feelings that comes from a place of fear/hurt/contraction. Feelings that come from hurt and fear feel different than the feelings that come from an awareness of who we truly are.
We are taught so much stuff in our culture and in our interactions with family and community about who and how we are supposed to be.
SO MUCH OF WHAT WE ARE TAUGHT ABOUT OURSELVES IS 100% BULLSHIT.
Our culture teaches us to HIDE and REJECT our true selves.
Just a couple of weeks ago, wifey and I were laying by the pool with a female friend. The friend has absolutely beautiful boobs!
She said, “I hate my boobs!” (oh, now I have your attention – I’m talking about boobs.)
I said, “They are beautiful! What the hell are you talking about?!”
She responded, “I only like fake boobs.”
My brilliant wife caught this one, “Do you realize you are saying that you can’t appreciate anything genuine?”
WHEN YOU LOVE WHO YOU TRULY ARE / ACCEPT WHO YOU TRULY ARE THE WORLD AROUND YOU SEEMS TO CHANGE
When we accept ourselves, there is a different energy about us. We begin to emanate something juicy – WE START TO BECOME OUR NATURALLY, JUICY SELVES!
When we begin to accept ourselves for exactly what we are without feeling like we have to be any way or anything that we are not, we start feeling a type of MOMENTUM in our life.
Don’t believe in your own limitations. Don’t believe your own beliefs!
LEARN TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THAT JUDGMENTAL VOICE INSIDE AND THE PEACEFUL, EXPANSIVE, EXCITING VOICE.
Now don’t think that the expansive voice won’t scare you – in order to grow into your genuine self, you will have to confront so much mental conditioning that runs very deep. It will be a struggle. It has been for me.
The hardest and greatest things I have ever done have been to confront the lies I tell myself – and I am a stubborn mother-fucker, it isn’t easy!
Give yourself the greatest gift! DON’T BUY INTO YOUR OWN BULLSHIT!