DO YOU WANT PAIN OR DRAMA?
The times when the hurt comes up, that’s the ONLY choice you have.
If you choose to feel the pain, it sucks!
IT FUCKING SUCKS! The pain we have buried inside scares the living shit out of us – and feeling it is the only way to heal it.
IF YOU CHOOSE DRAMA, DON’T THINK YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF FEELING THE PAIN!
If you choose drama, it comes with it’s own pain (sort of like unconsciously beating up on ourselves and the people around us in an effort to avoid the original pain/fear) and the original pain is still there to come back later.
Here’s the kicker: WE THINK THE DRAMA IS THE REAL PAIN!
When we create drama, we don’t even know that we are creating dramas – and the drama will closely resemble the original hurt, so it is easy to fool ourselves.
WHEN WE CREATE DRAMA IT IS ALL WE CAN SEE! And the truth of what is going on is still lurking beneath. Eventually, we need to get to the root of it.
Dramas can play out for hours, days, weeks, and even months.
The real, raw pain will usually come in waves and you will get some relief, even though you know you are fully healed yet. (Ever notice how everyone will end up laughing at the reception of a funeral after a good cry – right before the next good cry starts again, of course.
The hurt may not be gone forever, but the waves of raw pain will pass and you will feel lighter for a while, breathing easier.
When we are keeping ourselves stuck in a drama, (beating up on ourselves, beating up on another, feeling like it’s not fair, feeling like we “can’t handle” it, feeling sorry for ourselves) we stay more stuck and for longer.
HOW DO WE STAY STUCK IN DRAMA?
We stay stuck in the drama by the stories we tell ourselves. (Now part of the story is that we are not telling ourselves a story! SO WATCH FOR THAT!)
So, what’s the solution?
TELL A DIFFERENT STORY!
Either tell yourself a story where you feel empowered, where you accept responsibility for your part, and brings you some peace.
Or, take a break from whatever is going on and to something to nurture yourself. Do what makes you feel good. For me, I take a breath, I take a shower, I hit the gym, throw ball with my kids, do some kind of service work . . . anything to get myself out of that funk.
TELL A DIFFERENT STORY! TELL A STORY THAT RAISES YOUR ENERGY!
Tell a story that raises your vibration.
Tell a story where you grow into your biggest, boldest, most awesome spiritual baddass self!
Be Real. Be Raw. Make Your Life Awesome!