DATING IS ABOUT ELIMINATING 100% OF THE WRONG PEOPLE FROM YOUR LIFE
I hear from so many people how hard dating is.
So many dates and new relationships don’t do well, even the ones that start off well.
Don’t be dismayed. People come and go.
If they go – THEY NEED TO GO! They are not a good fit!
Why would you want someone in your life that isn’t a good fit for you?!
Seriously, why? Well, that’s a good question.
Why WOULD you try to hold on to someone when it isn’t working? We have all done it!
We do it because (AND NONE OF US WANT TO ADMIT THIS) we get attached to:
– Our fantasy of “what the relationship could be”
– The security of having love close by
– The sense of worth we get from someone’s love
– Avoiding the fear of being alone
None of those things are about the other and they aren’t things that anyone else can really do for you.
THOSE EXPECTATIONS ARE TOO MUCH PRESSURE TO PUT ON A RELATIONSHIP!!!!
Your fantasies aren’t real life.
Your sense of security is only YOUR responsibility.
Your self-worth is only YOUR responsibility.
Being afraid of being alone is a horrible reason to be with someone.
Enjoy your fantasies and don’t be attached to them.
Create your own security, carry it with you wherever you go.
Know your true worth! Deal with your shit, hire a coach or therapist.
Walk your path! Make your life so awesome that you don’t need anyone in it. That way, when you DO meet someone, you’ll naturally attract and meet someone who is strong and emotionally independent also.
Two strong, independent people come together NOT to fill each other’s “holes” but to enjoy each other’s “WHOLE”NESS!
When two Strong, Independent people come together, their Hearts rejoice and their relationship becomes about the PLAY of it all – the LOVE of it all – the FUN of being FREE and loved deeply.
FREE YOUR SELF FROM THE EMOTIONS THAT KEEP YOU STUCK!