DAD, IS THIS ONE OF THOSE “MY DAD IS A THERAPIST” MOMENTS?
Yes, my stand-up comedian daughter, at age 11, will bust my balls from time to time – she’s brilliant at it.
She is an empath.
She is Empathic – without trying she feels other’s feelings.
She felt the pain of a character on tv.
We stopped a movie to talk about what was going on.
FUCK! SHE’S 11 YEARS OLD, WHY CAN’T SHE BE A LITTLE GIRL A LITTLE LONGER!
But secretly I am proud of her. Of course she’s an empath! Of course she’s psychic!
She was conceived of two people who dedicated their lives to studying the Medicine Path in a Native American spiritual Tradition.
BEING AN EMPATH DOESN’T HAVE TO LEAD TO PAIN!
I felt every one’s pain when I was little – all I got was pity.
I was told I was “too sensitive.”
I was told I was “too serious all the time.”
I was confused and felt like there was something wrong with me.
“JoJo, you will feel other’s people’s emotions the rest of your life. You feel them big. You can take them in and feel sad, but we were born to be healers – to be beacons of Light.”
“Dad, I feel it all the time. It doesn’t end.” She said matter-of-fact-ly.
“I know, sweetie. Me too. It never ends. Here is the thing: When we make peace with our own hurts inside, we don’t feel like we are drowning in other’s pain.
It is not your pain. Your job is to know what it is like to hurt and to know that Love and Light can heal the hurt.”
THIS GIRL IS GOING TO HAVE TO GO THROUGH SOME REAL HURTS. I HATE IT AND IT HAPPENS TO ALL HEALERS.
In Shamanic teachings, the first healing any shaman has to do is on themself.
If she chooses to walk this path, she is going to have to hurt and heal.
I don’t want to push her, and I want to support her.
Now the part that had us laughing until we both had tears in our eyes was that (during her current fascination with HotPockets) she described holding space for someone who is hurting like, ” your heart is a big HotPocket and you wrap them up in the warm meat and cheesy center of a giant HotPocket.” (don’t judge, I bought a box of HotPockets)
Seriously, how many women are just now understanding and making peace with their intuition as they get into their late 30’s and early 40’s?!
What if you had been given the support and guidance you needed when you were young?
What if you grew up feeling EMPOWERMENT?!
Whether you are 42 years old, making up for lost time, or just starting your journey like my daughter,
IT IS YOUR TIME!
Don’t buy into that “don’t be selfish” crap! Take excellent care of you!
Selfish people who didn’t want to face their own insecurities taught you to “Don’t Be Selfish.”
(but that’s a different discussion)
You get to decide what story is told. No longer will you let someone else’s fear and shut-down dictate what is talked about.
For now, MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAIN!
That way, when you feel bombarded by other’s pain and emotions, you don’t lose your emotional center.
I only work with psychics and intuitives helping them to make peace with their old hurts and they won’t lose their emotional center –
They get to stay in that place where they feel nothing but Light and Love more and more and more.
When you are ready for that next level shit, schedule the time to talk with me.