Disillusionment, insecurity, self-doubt, fear of judgment, & fear of failure

THE DEPTHS OF MY ARROGANCE

Dis-illusionment, insecurity, self-doubt, fear of judgment, fear of failure – sound familiar?

I just read something that humbled me.

“Wake up early to journal about my greatest fears and scariest dreams. I stare at my naked self through my writing because I know the gaps in my reality are precisely what I need to become intimate with in order to grow into my higher self.”

Holy Shit! I am so proud of this sister and her vulnerability!

I WAS FUCKING FLOORED!

We all have “DON’T GO THERE” places inside. Places we don’t want to acknowledge or talk about.

I WISH IT WOULD JUST GO AWAY!

Isn’t that the motto for our “DON’T GO THERE” places inside.

I mean, Ignorance is bliss, right?!?! It worked for the generations before us, right?!?!?!

YEAH, FUCK THAT!

It never worked for me – at least not for long, we always pay the price for it.

I MADE A DEAL WITH SPIRIT ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO.

When I made this deal, I had already been walking my Spiritual path for 15 years, doing the best I could,
failing,
succeeding,
growing,
hiding,
coming out of hiding,
and ALWAYS COMING BACK TO DO THE WORK.

That 15 years could have been better, faster – It could have been a helluvalot worse.

I had great guidance, good teachers, and I got confronted as hard and deep as I felt like I could handle at each point.

The point is that it was perfect for me – the right teachers and elders, the right ceremonies, the right balance of build-me-up support and kick-my-ass support.

And I am thankful for all of it, even the gut-wrenching-feel-like-my-soul-is-being-ripped-out parts.

What was the deal I made with Spirit?

It was sometime in the 6 months before my 16th year of SunDancing. SunDance is 4 days, no food, no water, where the dancers are dancing their life’s path (represented by a physical path in the dance arbor) and getting more and clear about who they are and how they are to serve the Divine in this life – that’s the simplest description, though woefully inadequate.

I said to Spirit/Divinity:

I WANT TO GO ALL THE WAY. I WANT TO BECOME ENLIGHTENED. I WANT TO KNOW ALL THE ANSWERS.

That felt arrogant, although it was true – that was my desire.

I added:

I DON’T CARE IF IT TAKES A HUNDRED LIFETIMES TO GET THERE.

Then a chill came over me as I felt myself COMMITT to this desire.

AND I AM WILLING TO WALK THROUGH THE FIRE OF MY OWN PAIN TO GET THERE.

My grandmother, the medicine woman, started crying when I told her this.

She said, “Little one, did you hear what you just said? I am so sorry for the pain you are about to go through and so proud of the path you are walking. Oh, little one, I pray that they teach you will as gentle lessons, if you will allow it.”

WELL, I AM STUBBORN AS FUCK! IT HASN’T BEEN GENTLE.

As Brene Brown said, “You know how there are people that when they realize that vulnerability and tenderness are important, that they kind of surrender and walk into it: A, That’s not me. B, I don’t even hang out with people like that. For me it was a year-long street fight – it was a slugfest. Vulnerability pushed; I pushed back. I lost the fight and probably won my life back.”

For me, it felt like years of repeatedly getting KICKED IN THE BALLS!

And at every point I was aware of the gift that was evolving – even when I didn’t want to look at the gift, so I could play the victim and say “poor me.”

EVERY ILLUSION I HAD and

EVERY PLACE I WAS HIDING

got TORN THE FUCK DOWN.

This is what I asked for, Right?!

We can’t see the TRUTH if we are hiding behind our ILLUSIONS.

No wonder I am so good at helping people see through their own illusions and insecurities – I am the master at hiding them!

I KNOW ALL THE TRICKS!

Through major dis-illusionment, through major self-doubt, insecurity, fear of judgment, fear of failure, and loss of friends and family, I found my way.

My life is my work and my business – vulnerability is my business – being exposed is my business.

In today’s noisy world of social media, vulnerability and RAWness is the only thing that people notice.

More importantly, VULNERABILITY and RAWness are the only way to make our lives as awesome as we really dream of them being.

Does that make sense? What goes on inside when you read that?

AREN’T YOU HUNGRY TO BEGIN GROWING INTO THE PERSON YOU’VE BEEN DREAMING OF BEING?!!!!!

Do you want the TOOLS and SUPPORT and GUIDANCE to address these issues before they become problems?

Do you have the communication skills to make your relationships AWESOME?

I help people like you to bypass the negative consequences that running from our “DON’T GO THERE” places bring.

With support, guidance, massive compassion, a healthy dose of humor, and a mindset for life success, you can begin living the life of which you have always dreamed.

Sounds impossible? Somewhere deep inside this is the journey you are LONGING FOR!!!

Get in touch with me now to begin your adventure.

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME!

Hiding, Cheating, Lying, & Vulnerability

YOU LEARNED TO LIE! YOU LEARNED TO PLAY IT SAFE!

I know I did!

I learned to not share ME in a vulnerable way!

I have an incredible amount of love to give and I learned to HIDE the love that I have.

I make space for everyone’s vulnerability and make a big enough space that everyone feels emotionally held warmly and snugly and still expansive at the same time – that really is in my zone of genius.

It’s an awesome skill to have as a therapist – not so good to have if I want close satisfying relationships – in order to have close relationships, I have to share ALL OF ME, otherwise I am not fully engaged.

I learned to ONLY share what I sensed that people could handle. Why share more if people are going to freak out?!?!!!!

“IF YOU SHARE YOUR REAL THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS, PEOPLE WILL THINK YOU ARE A DEVIANT!”

I grew up in a really conservative, rule-based religious environment – I have always longed for Spiritual FREEDOM!
I grew up in a sexually repressed culture – I have always longed to be sexually free!
I grew up in a judgmental area that SHAMED people into conformity – I longed for a world not fueled by FEAR!

I THOUGHT I WAS JUST A FUCK-UP!

Everyone told me I was wrong. I felt their judgment.

Their convictions ran deep. I must be a fuck up, right?!

Have you ever seen that FB meme that says, “We are all a bunch of Perverts; some of us are just more honest about it!”

It’s true! But not just about LOVE and SEX!

It is a cultural thang! So many of us learned to hide our insecurities in hopes that we won’t be REJECTED and JUDGED – we learned to hide so we could be accepted!

REJECTION AND JUDGMENT SUCK!!!

When we get rejected and judged, we feel like our very SECURITY is on the line.

When people get triggered, they get into judgement and they push away whatever/whoever triggered them.

When people get triggered they vomit their shit all over you. It is like they dip a big paint brush into a bucket of their insecurities and completely cover and SMOTHER you with their “stuff.”

They project all their fears and insecurities onto you – often it feels like they are JUDGING you and/or BLAMING you – they are judging you for BEING WHO YOU ARE!

Have you ever shared something personal, vulnerable and felt like you got PUNISHED for it?

What’s the solution?

We NEED to be open and vulnerable to create close relationships (you can’t have emotional intimacy without it) AND we need to be accepted which necessitates not pushing people’s buttons to the point that they flip out on us, right?

What do you do?

Good news! There is a solution!

The solution should have been taught to us when we were little.

The solution is sooooo fucking simple – and so fucking hard to learn!

The keys to acceptance, security, and vulnerability are our birthright!

Were you given those keys?

When you UN-LEARN how to be un-accepted,
When you un-learn how to be un-secure,
When you un-learn how to be un-vulnerable,
Then you get to practice being ACCEPTED, feeling SECURE, and VULNERABILITY starts to feel really good.

These are just TOOLS that we need in our emotional, and spiritual toolbox. They are the tools with shich we buld an awesome life.

DO YOU HAVE THE TOOLS YOU NEED TO TRANSFORM INTO LIVING YOUR MOST AWESOME LIFE?!

Any guesses what those keys and those tools are?

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME!

Communication, Spiritual Alignment, and Awareness

QUIT WASTING MY TIME!

I don’t care what your intentions were – I’m not here to judge.

I don’t care how smart you are – TALK FROM YOUR HEART!

Have you ever heard that mindset matters?

Michael Jordan missed the first shot he took on a basketball goal – he missed a lot of shots, how did he become the greatest ever?

Wayne Gretsky missed more shots than he made, too! Why is he called The Great One?

How do some people seem to make their life look effortless?

Is it hard work? NO

They work hard. But hard work alone isn’t enough.

Have you ever heard Work Smarter, Not Harder?

WHAT WOULD THAT LOOK LIKE IN RELATIONSHIPS?

If you want success in anything, you not only have to work hard – you have to do the kind of work that gets you where you want to go!

You can do all kinds of work that doesn’t get you going where you want to go. Do you know the difference?

HAVE YOU EVER HAD ONE OF THOSE “DISCUSSIONS” OR ARGUMENTS THAT GOES ON FOR HOURS AND GOES NOWHERE?!?!

Knowing what to do and how to do it is vital!

No one that I have ever met was taught growing up how to do relationships well.

What’s really going on when there is a problem in our relationships?

YOU haven’t developed the awareness you need to “see through” what’s going on.

What’s REALLY being said?

What’s the (unspoken) sub-text of the deepest relationship dynamics?

Most of us don’t even know what point we are really speaking to when we react to something that someone says – WE DON’T KNOW WHAT GOT TRIGGERED INSIDE US.

YOU CAN’T KNOW UNTIL YOU ARE TAUGHT!

Give yourself the gift of getting the emotional tools, the communication tools, and the spiritual perspective tools you need to MAKE YOUR LIFE TOTALLY FUCKING AWESOME!

I have worked my ass off to develop this system that abolishes conflict, creates emotional connection, and gives people the tools to create the life of their dreams.

HOW LONG WILL YOU WAIT TO LEAVE YOUR CURRENT PROBLEMS BEHIND?

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME!

How much LOVE are you feeling?!

If you aren’t feeling ILLUMINATED, YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF!

Our purest essence is Divine, we can’t change that, we can only be blind to it.
If we are all Pure, why is there so much hurt, and ugliness?

ANYTHING LESS THAN LOVE COMES FROM SOME HURT OR IGNORANCE INSIDE.

People that seem mean, cold, or evil are just wounded. Something in their life has overshadowed their natural loving heart.

YOU HAVE A NATURALLY LOVING HEART!

It is vital to heal those hurts that get in the way of love.
YOUR JOB IS TO WALK YOUR PATH!
What does it mean to you when you hear, “Walk your Path”?
No matter what we think our lives are about, we really are here to grow into who we were born to be.
While therapy and life coaching, on the surface, seems to be about getting out of pain or ending arguments, it’s really about JOY – GETTING BACK TO A PLACE OF JOY.
Joy is our birthright – Feeling blessed is out birthright – KNOWING OUR DIVINE ESSENCE IS OUR BIRTHRIGHT.
Getting in touch with what is blocking the flow of Love in our lives is our task.
How much love do you feel flowing through you right now?
How much do you trust the people around you?
How safe do you feel in your life?
Do you belong?
How incredibly fucking awesome are you?
IF YOU DON’T FEEL ILLUMINATED ANSWERING THOSE QUESTIONS, IT’S TIME TO TALK!
None of us were given the TOOLS we need for our EMOTIONAL, SPIRITUAL, AND COMMUNICATION toolbox.
Get the training – get the TOOLS you need – give yourself the biggest gift!
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I should have been Aborted!

I SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABORTED!

It’s so clear to me.

I should have been aborted, smashed, burned, and destroyed. I have no right to be here. I am too fucked up to accept or to love.

At least that’s how it sounds in my head when I get triggered at the deepest level.

No wonder I am so fucking good working with people who need to be accepted in their pain, huh?!

We grow up believing that our behavior determines our worth – If we do good, then we are good.

WHAT A LOAD OF HORSESHIT!

The truth is just the opposite: You are worthy of love and there’s nothing you have to do in order to deserve that love.

When we do things that are not good, it is just our hurt, fear, unawareness, for ignorance that is being expressed as bad behavior. That bad behavior does not come from the core of Who We Are.

THE CORE OF YOU IS DIVINE – AND THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT!

SO , If I am truly DIVINE and I am feeling that I have no right to be here, and I am too messed up to deal with, that I should go away and die – the opposite belief would have to be the truth, right?

What would be the opposite?

I have every right to be here. I am worth being around and that I should stay and live an incredible life – I am welcome here and lovable. I don’t have to do anything or be anything to be loved.

WHEN THESE DEEP, CORE ISSUES GET TRIGGERED, OUR BEHAVIOR IS REACTIVE AND FEARFUL.

During those times, we need to do two big things:

1. Look inside and get clear about what is getting triggered – cleaning up whatever circumstance triggered us needs to happen later.

2. Communicate what we is getting triggered inside, and in a specific way.

Example: My sweetie got scared that I don’t love her and don’t care. We all have fears, that’s cool.

All was good until she said, “You don’t care about me.”

My defenses went up, and everything went to shit. She as already triggered, now so was I.

What I should have said was: “I just heard you say that I don’t care about you. I got really triggered when you said that. I understand you getting scared and that’s ok, but what got triggered in me is that IF YOU REALLY BELIEVE THAT I DONT CARE WHILE I REALLY DO CARE, THEN IN MY MIND, YOU CAN MAKE UP ANY STORY ABOUT ME AND I MIGHT GET THROWN AWAY FOR SOMETHING I DIDNT DO.

My trigger comes from the womb. I felt like I got thrown away (must have been bad to get that, right?) But I didn’t really do anything to deserve it.

So when I hear I hear you saying something bad about me or how I feel that’s not true, it triggers this huge thing inside me.

Please say, “I am feeling insecure. I know you love me and I want you to pat me on the head and tell me everything is ok, that I feel good to you and that you love me. I got really scared that you don’t love me.”

Then it’s going to land really well with me.”

THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN ME ADDRESSING MY TRIGGER BEFORE ADDRESSING E SITUATION ETWEEN US.

Now, ideally she would have done that, too, and we all have tough times, that’s ok, too.

WHAT TRIGGERS YOU?

How do you react when you get triggered?

How would you like to react?

Be REAL. Be RAW. MAKE your life AWESOME.

I KILLED 3 CHIPMUNKS IN 3 MINUTES!

I KILLED 3 CHIPMUNKS IN 3 MINUTES!

Well, it was more like assisted suicide.

I was driving by myself to a Native American 4-day dance in 2013, the dancers would be fasting (No Food, No Water), praying, and dancing for 4 days.

Only a half mile from home, a chipmunk ran in front of the car and committed suicide under the right front tire.

I said, “Bless you little one. I love you and honor your sacrifice. I’ll remember to look up Chipmunk medicine.”

300 yard later a second chipmunk ran in front of the car. Splat!

“Holy Shit! That’s two! (looking up to Spirit) OK, I get it. I will look up chipmunk medicine . . . and bless you little one.”

A half mile later, number three!

(again, looking up to Spirit) “OK, I will stop now and look up chipmunk medicine. I get it!” I pulled over as soon immediately, said a prayer for little dude #3, and quickly searched for an answer on my phone.

As I got to the Dance, the dancer’s meeting was just starting, there were four first-time dancers.

After the dance chief gave his orientation talk, he asked if there was anything I wanted to share with the dancers.

I told the story of killing 3 chipmunks in 3 minutes and started sharing the teaching . . .

“Chipmunks are associated with the number 12, they have a 12 week gestation period, and we have 12 dancers here.

Chipmunks are MASTERS OF CURIOSITY!

Whenever they encounter something new, they GET CURIOUS!

They go check out the new thing and learn EVERYHTING THERE IS TO LEARN.

Then, ONLY AFTER BEING CURIOUS, they decide whether or not they should be scared.

So everyone, ESPECIALLY YOU 4 NEW DANCERS who have shown up here on a Friday and aren’t quite sure what you have gotten yourself into,

STEP IN – DIVE DEEP – WAIT UNTIL MONDAY TO DECIDE WHETHER OR NOT YOU NEED TO BE SCARED.”

Those 4 new dancers and half of the rest let out a relieved, nervous laugh.

Why am I sharing this? Our emotions and our internal life are the same way.

STEP THE FUCK IN! STEP CLOSER AND GET CURIOUS WHEN YOU ARE SCARED!

Go inside learn everything about what you are scared of inside. Write it out in a specific way.

Write down: “Right now, I am scared that _____________________ is true/going to happen. I learned to be scared of things like this when __________ happened in my past. When I get scared of that, my crazy mind chimes in and I start thinking __________ and __________ and __________.”

Our fears are bad enough as they are.

Our fears get bigger when we don’t know the full story they have to tell.

Our fears get TOTALLY UNMANAGEABLE when we don’t focus on the core fear and start all that thinking that makes up scary stories about what might happen!

STEP IN – GET CURIOUS WHAT THIS FEAR HAS TO TELL YOU ABOUT YOURSELF!

And while you are doing that, do the scariest thing you can do when you are scared,

STEP IN – ACTUALLY TAKE A STEP TOWARD THE PERSON YOU ARE WITH.

Say to them, “I’m scared. And I am scared to share what I am scared about. Will you listen while I share?”

Share with them what your inner CURIOSITY has uncovered inside.

While you share, thank them for listening, FOCUS ON YOUR OWN FEELINGS OF FEAR – don’t talk about your partner’s feelings, their actions, or whether or not you like what they have done.

Sharing our feelings – instead of reacting to our fears as if they have already happened is a skill. This skill is like having the right TOOL for the job at the right time.

Having the right emotional, spiritual, and communication tools is vital for living an AWESOME LIFE!

GET CURIOUS! STEP THE FUCK IN!

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME!

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Why are women treated like second class citizens?

WOMEN ARE SECOND CLASS CITIZENS!

Do you know why this trend of treating women like this got started? Do you know when?

IT WASN’T ALWAYS THIS WAY!

If you want to learn about this disgusting abomination of human nature, we are going to have to talk about sex!

I HAVE A STORY TO TELL – IT IS AN INSPIRATIONAL STORY

It’s a story of how the human race lost it’s heart millenia ago.

ITS A STORY THAT HOLDS THE KEYS TO ENLIGHTENMENT AND PEACE – INNER PEACE AND PEACE AMONG THE PEOPLE OF THIS PLANET.

Would you like to hear the history of sex among humans over the last 6,000 years?

Would you like to hear how women started being treated as second class citizens?

ANYONE INTERESTED IN HEARING THIS STORY?

WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL ESSENCE OF SEX FOR WOMEN?

60% OF WOMEN ARE MISSING OUT!

Years ago, while I was writing Pillars of Awesome Relationships, I did a survey of women. I asked only one question.

WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL ESSENCE OF SEX FOR WOMEN?

Out of all the women I surveyed, there were only two answers! ONLY TWO!

60% of women said “SAFETY”
40% said something else

Is safety important in sex, especially to women?

ABSOLUTELY!

Is it the end all, be all of sex?

Hell No! If safety is all a woman wanted to feel, she’d be better off NOT HAVING SEX AT ALL in this day and age!

Have you met the men that are out there – quality men are few and far between. Not saying there aren’t some good guys out there, but how many GREAT MEN do you know?

How many men do you know that have their heart FULLY OPEN?

How many do you know that are:
-in touch with their feminine side
-able to fully express and stand in their masculinity
-own their sexual desire
-emotionally responsible
-great communicators
-willing to deal with their own shit
-responsible with their sexual energy
-know their true spiritual path
-walking their spiritual path
-knowing their life’s purpose
-able to share their toughness AND tenderness with ease?

Without men who offer all of that . . . SHIT YEA women need to focus on their safety – especially in such an UBER VULNERABLE place as having a man literally and emotionally and energetically PENETRATE THEM!

AND the safety aspect, while super necessary, is child’s play compared to what else is possible!

ANY guesses what the other 40% percent of women said?

WHAT IS THE SPIRITUAL ESSENCE OF SEX FOR WOMEN?

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME!

Sexual Shame: The Spirituality of DESIRE

“I thought she had DENTI-RECTU-MYOSIS!  I wanted to bite her on the ass!”  I said.

The morning after a high school reunion, I told that joke at breakfast with 4 people from HS.  These four people had been gossiping, criticizing, judging, and even diagnosing what mental disorder a woman had after seeing this woman dancing in a really sexy way the night before at the reunion.

I thought it was funny as shit!  It was a good joke, yes?!  (It was one I adapted from a joke my dad had told me 30 years ago.  I’ll share the original joke at the end of this post.)

When I told that joke, and said I wanted to bite her on the ass, I saw four people look shocked, offended- almost disgusted, and one of them (a 45 year old woman) even covered her ears and said, “Oh, I’m going to get corrupted.”

I thought, “That’s exactly where I got it.  That’s how I learned to have so much shame.”

SEX IS BAD!  DESIRE IS BAD!  IF YOU HAVE DESIRE, YOU ARE BAD!!!

I am soooo fucking glad I escaped that way of thinking!

I grew up with some nasty, toxic shame around my sexuality and sexual energy,

AND I HAD ENORMOUS DESIRE!

I must be bad, right?!

So I learned to hide.  In order to be somewhat accepted, I had to hide my desire and my sexual energy.  I had to hide one of the most important parts of me!

There is so much hurt in this world, especially around sex, and with the interplay between sex and relationships.

SEX IS THE EASIEST WAY TO TOUCH THE DIVINE.

Why the fuck would it be considered a sin?  Why would it be referred to as wicked?

Notice your language around sex, notice how other’s talk about it, notice your feelings when you think about having sex, notice your feelings when you think about others having sex, and notice your feelings when you think about your partner having sex with someone else.

Any hurt come up?  Any judgement come up?

If you found out your partner had sex with someone else, would you hope they got EVERYTHING they needed and felt empowered, and felt like they had been held in the heart of the Divine?

I really want to caution people to be aware of anything even remotely associating sexual energy, attraction, and desire with wickedness.

Even when we make a joke calling someone evil because they ignite our desire, we need to be aware of the spiritual blessing in that desire!

I got the message that any desire is bad!  Therefore, I MUST BE BAD!

It has taken a lot of work to embrace my own desire!  I HAVE TO ACCEPT ME!  WTF?!?!

Wait, You mean that I never would have felt judged or bad or shame IF I HAD JUST ACCEPTED ME?!?!?!

I wish I had been taught growing up how to feel my desire and keep it balanced with EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY!  How awesome would that would have been!

I work with so many people that judge themselves so severely for their desire, and for acting on their desire.

WERE YOU GIVEN THE TOOLS OF SELF-ACCEPTANCE AND EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY GROWING UP?

OK, back to wickedness (and judgement).  The only way wickedness comes in is when we feel desire and have our hearts shut-down, but really not even then!

The effect this type of fear-based judgment has is to introduce a bit of hesitation and doubt into all the love we feel for others and from others – it makes the love CONDITIONAL, isn’t the goal UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?!?!

SEX IS INTENDED TO BRING US CLOSER TO DIVINITY!

My grandmother, a Medicine Woman, said, “We are never closer to God than when we are having sex.”

That’s so true – EVEN IF WE IGNORE THE SPIRITUAL OPENING THAT IS AVAILABLE TO US!

Even when we have our heart disconnected from sex, it is not wickedness or the devil – it is just that when we keep our heart shut down, we are not able to feel the full blessing of the divine – only the pull towards the divine.

When humans have sex without heart, and you mix in fear of abandonment, self-worth issues, poor boundaries, a lot of hurt can happen.

Well, a lot of hurt can happen when those issue get involved even when the heart is pretty open and present!  It is just magnified when we have sex and we have all those hurts boiling inside!

When we don’t have the TOOLS to deal with the hurts inside, we blame sex, our partners, ourselves for the hurt.

When we don’t have the TOOLS to deal with the hurts inside, WE JUDGE!  We make sex BAD – We make others BAD – We make OURSELVES BAD!

This thing about judging ourselves is a cultural pandemic!

Judging ourselves is a warped way of looking at GOD!

If God is LOVE, and God made such powerful drives that open us up emotionally and spiritually, then how the fuck could we be bad for feeling something that gets us closer to GOD?

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE IN ORDER TO EMBRACE EVERY DESIRE YOU HAVE, TO FEEL IT, AND TO ENGAGE AND PURSUE ALL THOSE DESIRE THAT WOULD LEAD TO THE HIGHEST GOOD?

And how would you have to think in order to feel a desire that, if you pursued it, would not lead to the highest good?

Answer below in the comments.

Be REAL.  Be RAW.  Make Your Life AWESOME!

P.S.  OK, the original joke was that someone had OPTI-RECTU-MYOSIS, it’s where the neurons governing the visual perception get fused with neurons controlling the rectum – YOU END UP WITH A REALLY SHITTY OUTLOOK ON LIFE!

P.P.S.  Don’t have Opti-Rectu-Myosis, get the TOOLS you need in your Emotional, Spiritual, and Communication toolbox to make your life AWESOME!

P.P.P.S.  To all those women with DENTI-RECTU-MYOSIS, KEEP DANCING!  YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL WHEN YOU LET YOUR BODY MOVE!