I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN FASCINATED BY THE STIGMATA!

The ones who carry the wounds of Christ, the bleeding wrists are the most common (of this extremely rare phenomenon), are said to be deeply spiritual people who are often deeply tormented people.

The deepest faith means the deepest battles internally with our own “demons”.

For years, I had a secret fantasy that I would have something like the Stigmata as an outward symbol of my inner struggle.

I grew up being told I didn’t have faith because I didn’t buy into the Southern Baptist churchgoer’s ideas of what a “good person” should do and be.

But I also had a sense of the Divine that rumbled in the deepest part of my soul – but I couldn’t describe it.

“Maybe if my wrists bled, then I wouldn’t doubt my faith” seemed to be the thought I had.

But really it would, in some way, give me something to fight.

If it were something external it would be an easier fight than the one that I had.

I came to realize two things:

One, the only real sin is to not be true to who we really are – who God put us here to be.

Two, the real battle is to fight the way we think, the way we were taught to think about ourselves.

When we think in ways that prevent us from being who we really are and feel fantastic about being our authentic self, we are SCREWED!

Did you hear that?

THE ONLY REAL SIN IS TO NOT BE TRUE TO WHO WE REALLY ARE!

Here, let me put it in language the churchgoers will understand:

SELF-DOUBT AND FEAR OF JUDGEMENT ARE AN ABOMINATION!

If you are following the rules of being a “good person” you are telling God to go fuck herself!

Oh, wait.  You probably also think god is a man, don’t you?!  Whatever.

I fought and still fight against my own DOUBT and FEAR – I feel like I keep losing, and I keep fighting and keep growing.

Deeply Tormented?  YUP!

We all are, in some way.

My job is to get myself in front of those doubts and fears as well as I can, not stop myself, and keep pushing forward.

My biggest doubt is about my worth, the fear is about being judged and outcast, abandoned.

IF I HIDE WHO I REALLY AM AND ONLY SHARE WHAT IS ACCEPTABLE TO YOU, YOU WON’T JUDGE ME!

Of course it comes from abandonment issues as an infant, I know that, and the struggle plays out again every time I grow and up-level in any area of my life.

Here’s the problem:

Your judgments only come from your insecurities, not from any kind of moral righteousness (even though that’s what we were taught).

Although those fears don’t come up in my personal relationships much any more, they certainly come up as roadblocks to growing my business!

It’s an honor to serve and support people in their own empowerment as they learn how to get into alignment and to bring their true authentic selves into their most important relationships.

Out of an incredible Faith, devotion to a Spiritual Path, and insight into our inner emotional workings on the deepest levels, I have found three things keep coming up that need attention in our culture:

They are things that we all NEED and WANT:

Amazing Relationships

Great Sex

Spiritual Enlightenment

I wrote about all these a couple of days ago, if you missed it check it out here:

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10214829101103230&id=1297339917

All three of these are vital parts of who we are!

All three require authenticity, emotional awareness, growing sense of inner peace, depth of presence, and depth of spirit.

Whenever one is enhanced, it opens the door for greater senses in the others.

The same skills are needed for all three and their importance cannot be over-looked.

When you are ready to dive-deep into your own heart, the heart of the Divine, and into the heart those most important to you, you need to schedule some time to talk with me.

Isn’t it time to start the life you dreamed of?!

Be REAL.  Be RAW.  Make Your Life AWESOME.

DAD, IS THIS ONE OF THOSE “MY DAD IS A THERAPIST” MOMENTS?

Yes, my stand-up comedian daughter, at age 11, will bust my balls from time to time – she’s brilliant at it.

She is an empath.

She is Empathic – without trying she feels other’s feelings.

She felt the pain of a character on tv.

We stopped a movie to talk about what was going on.

FUCK! SHE’S 11 YEARS OLD, WHY CAN’T SHE BE A LITTLE GIRL A LITTLE LONGER!

But secretly I am proud of her. Of course she’s an empath! Of course she’s psychic!

She was conceived of two people who dedicated their lives to studying the Medicine Path in a Native American spiritual Tradition.

BEING AN EMPATH DOESN’T HAVE TO LEAD TO PAIN!

I felt every one’s pain when I was little – all I got was pity.

I was told I was “too sensitive.”

I was told I was “too serious all the time.”

I was confused and felt like there was something wrong with me.

“JoJo, you will feel other’s people’s emotions the rest of your life. You feel them big. You can take them in and feel sad, but we were born to be healers – to be beacons of Light.”

“Dad, I feel it all the time. It doesn’t end.” She said matter-of-fact-ly.

“I know, sweetie. Me too. It never ends. Here is the thing: When we make peace with our own hurts inside, we don’t feel like we are drowning in other’s pain.

It is not your pain. Your job is to know what it is like to hurt and to know that Love and Light can heal the hurt.”

THIS GIRL IS GOING TO HAVE TO GO THROUGH SOME REAL HURTS. I HATE IT AND IT HAPPENS TO ALL HEALERS.

In Shamanic teachings, the first healing any shaman has to do is on themself.

If she chooses to walk this path, she is going to have to hurt and heal.

I don’t want to push her, and I want to support her.

Now the part that had us laughing until we both had tears in our eyes was that (during her current fascination with HotPockets) she described holding space for someone who is hurting like, ” your heart is a big HotPocket and you wrap them up in the warm meat and cheesy center of a giant HotPocket.” (don’t judge, I bought a box of HotPockets)

Seriously, how many women are just now understanding and making peace with their intuition as they get into their late 30’s and early 40’s?!

What if you had been given the support and guidance you needed when you were young?

What if you grew up feeling EMPOWERMENT?!

Whether you are 42 years old, making up for lost time, or just starting your journey like my daughter,

IT IS YOUR TIME!

Don’t buy into that “don’t be selfish” crap!  Take excellent care of you!

Selfish people who didn’t want to face their own insecurities taught you to “Don’t Be Selfish.”
(but that’s a different discussion)

You get to decide what story is told. No longer will you let someone else’s fear and shut-down dictate what is talked about.

For now, MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAIN!

That way, when you feel bombarded by other’s pain and emotions, you don’t lose your emotional center.

I only work with psychics and intuitives helping them to make peace with their old hurts and they won’t lose their emotional center –

They get to stay in that place where they feel nothing but Light and Love more and more and more.

When you are ready for that next level shit, schedule the time to talk with me.

Be REAL. Be RAW. Make Your Life AWESOME.